4 month celebration

It was CT and my 4-month anniversary yesterday. It seems like we have been together for much longer than that. I feel like I have known him for years. In celebration of our anniversary, he made me pancakes for breakfast… yummy! We also went for a long walk on one of the trails through town. It was so nice outside and it was awesome to be out for a walk in the sun with the man I love. We stopped to pick some wildflowers and just had a wonderful time. We also did a little work on the house. I am getting the walls prepared to be painted in the entranceway and upstairs hall. It is a lot of work to get the walls ready! Lots of drywall compound and sanding. I am planning to paint those areas next weekend. Then next on the agenda after that is the guest room, which I would like to have ready by the end of June. CT has been a huge help with the house. It’s so nice to have him around.

CT and I did sit down last Thursday evening and had a serious talk about moving in together. Thanks for all your input ladies; I appreciated your advice! I had made a list of all the pros and cons associated with moving in together and we talked about all of that. It was nice to openly discuss it and let him know what I am concerned about. He feels very similar to me and I feel really good about it now that we discussed things. And I don’t really have too many concerns, just a few little things. Like for instance, I don’t want to be one of those couples who 10 years and 3 kids later, we are still just living together. I see living together as a stepping stone to marriage and one of my concerns would be that if we are already living together, there would be not as much motivation for him to marry me. I could definitely see us getting married in a year or two; and just want to live together first for awhile before that happens. I am not content to just live together common law indefinitely; I want it to be a step to marriage. So, I shared that with him and he feels the same way.

I also tested the waters with my mom and just mentioned the idea to her to see what she thought. She thinks that if that is my decision, she will support me. She just would like it better if we were at least engaged before we started living together, but she will support me either way. I guess she is just concerned that if you live together before you are married, that takes some of the specialness away from starting your lives together as a married couple. She also mentioned it to my dad to see what he thought and he thinks it’s a great idea (who knew?!). I guess he thinks it would be nice for there to be a man in the house to protect me and he thinks it’s a good idea to live together before marriage. So, sounds like I would have my parents support, which is nice to know.

So, now CT just has to talk to his landlady and see how soon he could move out. I’m thinking the move will likely happen a month or two down the road. And also, there is the issue of how our cats would get along. CT has a 3 year old male cat, so hopefully he will get along with little Smokey. I think CT may bring his cat down next weekend for a visit to see how the 2 of them get along.