Nej demanded details of the birthday lunch for BD's mom, so I thought I should post an update.
Yesterday, I met BD and his parents at Red Lobster for lunch. I love Red Lobster - it was so yummy! It was really nice to sit down and have a meal with them and get to know them better. They are really nice people. They are very funny as well. I gave BD's mom the birthday card that I had picked out (with the help of my mom since we picked out the exact same card). She really liked the card, so I was glad about that. I have a feeling they like me. At least that's what BD tells me, but I mean, come on, how could they not like me? ;)
After lunch, BD and I went for a walk since it was a nice sunshiny day and then we came back to my place for a little hangout time. It was nice to have some alone time since we weren't alone at all on Saturday at the tri cuz mummy was there too. So, I was glad that we got to have some "just him and me" time.
Okay, I am not normally one to spill my feelings, but at this point in our relationship, I have the overwhelming urge to tell BD that I love him. I have wanted to tell him for a couple weeks now, but I have been too chicken. I am afraid of telling him and him not reciprocating those feelings. Perhaps he is thinking the same thing though. I read in Cosmo (which I know, is not the best on the relationship front) and they said that you should always wait for the guy to say it first. But, Cosmo is usually just a bunch of crap anyways (they say you should make a guy "wait" for sex... and by waiting they mean until the 3rd date. I'm like, that's not "waiting"!!!! Insane!). Anyways, that is something that has been weighing on my mind as of late (wanting to tell BD I love him, not the Cosmo sex thing). I don't really know what to do. I want to share with him how I feel, but I also don't want to tell him too soon and scare him off.
Okay, enough of that, I am leaving shortly for Toronto to see U2! Yay!
4 comments:
Yay for updates! :o)
As for the whole "I love you" thing, it seems to me that guys always end up having to take the initiative. Tradition says they should ask us out etc, but some guys are shy or not good at expressing feelings. Not knowing BD, I can't say for sure what his reaction would be. You said that you are the first girl he's ever considered his girlfriend (even though he's been in relationships that have lasted a year), which makes me think that he might not be inclined to say it first.
If you two have good communication, you should be able to tell him how you feel and tell him that it's okay if he's not ready to say the same thing back. You could just say that you simply wanted him to know how you felt, that you're not rushing him into anything if he's not ready and you don't expect him to reciprocate (though you hope he does!).
I hope that made sense!
I'm bad at the emotions stuff too. I don't think I've ever said "I love you" to anyone but my dog...
I'm a pushy little brat aren't I? :oP
Some guys are quite shy and will not make the first move (JB for example). If I had waited for him to do something, we both would be single right now. He admitted as much. Guys, though supposed to be the 'stronger sex' can be insecure too.
I think nej put it well in her comment.
Thanks for the advice guys. I guess I will have to get over my state of chicken and tell him how I feel sometime in the near future. I am hoping I will just know when the time is right.
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