I drove up with another coworker and we were told to get there mid-afternoon so we could man the booth for a couple hours before dinner. Well, we got there just before 3pm and the booths were all already torn down! I guess they had to tear down the booth at 1:30pm, but didn’t bother to call us to tell us… men! So, we hung out and talked to some people and then went to the bar to hang out before dinner. Dinner was good, we had about 50 people out in total in our group, so there was lots of schmoozing to do. We ordered our meal at 6:30pm, but it didn’t come until almost 8pm! I was starving by that point, especially since I missed my afternoon snack! The dinner went well, everyone wanted to talk about the baby, so that made it easy. I always hate these networking events, but since people were interested in the baby, that made it easier. I got home just before midnight, so it was a long day. But, I came in late this morning so I could still get a good night’s sleep. And since I worked such a long day yesterday, that means I only need to use 3 of my banked OT hours for my day off on Monday when I was in Niagara Falls.
I ran into my ex-boss (i.e. the Snake) at the conference. I hadn’t seen him in 2 years, so it was a little strange to see him again after all this time. He got married a couple weeks before I did, and now he and his wife are expecting a baby a couple weeks before me! So, that’s cool. I’ve gotten past the point where I want to punch him out, so that’s good.
I’m so glad it’s Friday. And today is my bro Al’s 23rd birthday!
Tomorrow, Carlos and I are going to a wedding for one of his friends. It’s about an hour away, so I am the built-in DD ;) The wedding is an outdoor wedding, and of course it’s supposed to rain all weekend. So, I hope they have a back-up plan like a tent or something!
Happy Friday everyone!
EDIT 12:50pm
I just got a call from my mom. Apparently I missed a lot of action yesterday. The short version is that she had to hire a lawyer because she is no longer safe in her workplace. I guess "crazy lady" (the one who tried to make sure she wasn't hired this year by making outrageous accusations) verbally attacked her yesterday for no reason. I don't know all of the details, but apparently all of mom's colleagues encouraged her to get a lawyer since they all don't know what crazy lady is capable of. I guess she has been threatening some of the other people in the department too, not just mom. Luckily, mom has a friend who is a lawyer, so she hired her because she totally trusts her. I feel so bad for my mom. I really hope the university fires this lady!!!
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Wednesday, September 10, 2008
Random update
Last night, I went out for dinner and to the movies with the girls at work, which was fun. We saw the Sisterhood of the Travelling Pants 2, which is of course a totally girly movie. I had just read the books and saw the first movie over the summer, so it was nice to see the second movie while it was still fresh in my mind. It was fun to hang out with the girls outside of work, I think we’re going to try to do that a few times in the coming months.
I had the worst dream last night. I dreamed that I went for my ultrasound and they couldn’t find the baby! They had concluded that the baby had died. I was devastated and woke up feeling all sad. But, I realize it was just a dream. I can’t wait until Tuesday though because then I’ll get some reassurance that everything is okay!
Tomorrow, I am going to Kingston for the afternoon and evening for a conference and then dinner with current and potential clients, so I hope that goes well. This is a big conference that we go to every year. Luckily, I don’t have to go for the full 3 days since I don’t think I’d be able to stand at our booth for that long! But, a few hours at the booth and then dinner out, I can handle that. And, the more hours I work tomorrow night, the less OT hours I need to use for my day off on Monday.
I had the worst dream last night. I dreamed that I went for my ultrasound and they couldn’t find the baby! They had concluded that the baby had died. I was devastated and woke up feeling all sad. But, I realize it was just a dream. I can’t wait until Tuesday though because then I’ll get some reassurance that everything is okay!
Tomorrow, I am going to Kingston for the afternoon and evening for a conference and then dinner with current and potential clients, so I hope that goes well. This is a big conference that we go to every year. Luckily, I don’t have to go for the full 3 days since I don’t think I’d be able to stand at our booth for that long! But, a few hours at the booth and then dinner out, I can handle that. And, the more hours I work tomorrow night, the less OT hours I need to use for my day off on Monday.
Tuesday, September 09, 2008
Wow, 1 year already!
Carlos and I had a wonderful weekend in Niagara Falls. Since our actual anniversary was yesterday, we both took the day off and went on our trip from Saturday until Monday.
We got to Niagara in the early afternoon on Saturday and were able to check into our room early. It was a gorgeous room with an amazing view of both the American and the Canadian falls! We lucked out! Since the weather was nice, we decided to walk down to the falls and look around. We did the journey behind the falls where you can walk behind the falls and we also did a new attraction called “Niagaras Fury” which is a simulation ride about the falls. It was okay, but not worth the amount of money they charged for it. We walked around a bit more and then went for dinner. After dinner we went back to our room to watch the falls illumination. That was neat; they lit up the falls with all different colours.
On Sunday, we did a bunch of things. We went to an IMAX movie since it was raining, then walked down to Clifton Hill and went to Brick City (a whole city built of lego), and to the Rainforest Café for lunch. We then checked out the WWE store, which was neat. We also went to the Guiness World Records museum, the wax museum, and then we did this huge maze game where we had to run around and find different towers and items. After that, we did the maid of the mist, which was super cool! You get SOAKED, luckily they give you ponchos! We got really close to the falls, which was amazing. What a neat experience! After that, we were pretty tired, so we went back to the room to rest for a bit before dinner.
We decided to go out for a nice dinner on Sunday night to celebrate our anniversary (I know it was a few hours early, but oh well). We went to the Keg which was in the hotel next door on the 9th floor, so with a nice view of the falls. Carlos completely surprised me with a beautiful card in which he had written a poem for me. What a sweetie; it was amazing! He also gave me the most gorgeous diamond necklace! It has 7 diamonds in a wavy vertical line starting with smaller diamonds at the top and then the diamonds get larger on the way down. It’s SOOO pretty! I was totally blown away! I certainly am spoiled!!!!
We didn’t buy any souvenirs on our trip, but we did buy our first item for the baby. We found a Portugal onesie in a sports store that was just too cute to pass up. That was the first item of clothing we bought for the baby; all the other things we have so far my mom bought!
Yesterday, we got back in the early afternoon and relaxed for awhile. I had my first prenatal pilates class, which was fun. There are about 12 of us in the class, and I am in the middle in terms of due date, the earliest due date in the class is mid-December and the latest is late March. There is actually one other woman in the class with my exact same due date, which is neat! That’s the first time I’ve been with other people pregnant and due around the same time as me, so I’m sure we’ll have lots to talk about over the next several weeks.
Last night, we actually remembered to take the top tier of our wedding cake our of the freezer and have a piece in honour of our anniversary. It was yummy!
I can’t believe we’ve been married a year already; it’s gone by so quickly!
Now it’s back to work for another week. At least it’s a 4-day work week for me! Yesterday was my last day off until late October likely. Although, next Tuesday, I do have a couple hours off in the morning since it is ultrasound day! Yay! One week to go!
So I’m at 19 weeks now. I’m still waiting to be able to feel the baby move. They say with first time moms the average for when you can first feel the baby move is between 18 and 22 weeks. So, it could still be a couple weeks yet. Yesterday morning, I did feel a bubbling sensation I had never felt before, but that was only once, so who knows, it could have been something else.
We got to Niagara in the early afternoon on Saturday and were able to check into our room early. It was a gorgeous room with an amazing view of both the American and the Canadian falls! We lucked out! Since the weather was nice, we decided to walk down to the falls and look around. We did the journey behind the falls where you can walk behind the falls and we also did a new attraction called “Niagaras Fury” which is a simulation ride about the falls. It was okay, but not worth the amount of money they charged for it. We walked around a bit more and then went for dinner. After dinner we went back to our room to watch the falls illumination. That was neat; they lit up the falls with all different colours.
On Sunday, we did a bunch of things. We went to an IMAX movie since it was raining, then walked down to Clifton Hill and went to Brick City (a whole city built of lego), and to the Rainforest Café for lunch. We then checked out the WWE store, which was neat. We also went to the Guiness World Records museum, the wax museum, and then we did this huge maze game where we had to run around and find different towers and items. After that, we did the maid of the mist, which was super cool! You get SOAKED, luckily they give you ponchos! We got really close to the falls, which was amazing. What a neat experience! After that, we were pretty tired, so we went back to the room to rest for a bit before dinner.
We decided to go out for a nice dinner on Sunday night to celebrate our anniversary (I know it was a few hours early, but oh well). We went to the Keg which was in the hotel next door on the 9th floor, so with a nice view of the falls. Carlos completely surprised me with a beautiful card in which he had written a poem for me. What a sweetie; it was amazing! He also gave me the most gorgeous diamond necklace! It has 7 diamonds in a wavy vertical line starting with smaller diamonds at the top and then the diamonds get larger on the way down. It’s SOOO pretty! I was totally blown away! I certainly am spoiled!!!!
We didn’t buy any souvenirs on our trip, but we did buy our first item for the baby. We found a Portugal onesie in a sports store that was just too cute to pass up. That was the first item of clothing we bought for the baby; all the other things we have so far my mom bought!
Yesterday, we got back in the early afternoon and relaxed for awhile. I had my first prenatal pilates class, which was fun. There are about 12 of us in the class, and I am in the middle in terms of due date, the earliest due date in the class is mid-December and the latest is late March. There is actually one other woman in the class with my exact same due date, which is neat! That’s the first time I’ve been with other people pregnant and due around the same time as me, so I’m sure we’ll have lots to talk about over the next several weeks.
Last night, we actually remembered to take the top tier of our wedding cake our of the freezer and have a piece in honour of our anniversary. It was yummy!
I can’t believe we’ve been married a year already; it’s gone by so quickly!
Now it’s back to work for another week. At least it’s a 4-day work week for me! Yesterday was my last day off until late October likely. Although, next Tuesday, I do have a couple hours off in the morning since it is ultrasound day! Yay! One week to go!
So I’m at 19 weeks now. I’m still waiting to be able to feel the baby move. They say with first time moms the average for when you can first feel the baby move is between 18 and 22 weeks. So, it could still be a couple weeks yet. Yesterday morning, I did feel a bubbling sensation I had never felt before, but that was only once, so who knows, it could have been something else.
Thursday, September 04, 2008
Stressful appointment
We had our 18-week appointment with the midwife last night. This was our first time meeting our second midwife. She was okay, but a bit of a scatter-brain it seemed. Well, when it came time to listen to the heartbeat, she tried for about 20 minutes with no luck. She did say that my placenta could be at the front, which would make it difficult, or it could be a positional thing. With every minute that went past, I was getting more and more worried. She said if they couldn’t find it, not to panic, but they would likely send me to the hospital for an ultrasound just to be sure. Luckily, that wasn’t necessary. She got another midwife to come in and try, and she found it in about 15 seconds! I was SOOOOO relieved! I don’t know if it was that the baby was moving around so much that it was difficult to find, or if the other midwife had a better Doppler, who knows. I’m just glad they were so determined and wouldn’t let me leave until they found it! We were there for almost an hour and a half total since the first 45 minutes were spent talking about things and me asking questions, etc. So, we left there feeling relieved, but it was stressful!
I’m headed to Toronto in a few minutes for a meeting at the MOE. I will likely be gone most of the day, but I’m happy to get out of the office for a bit.
I’m headed to Toronto in a few minutes for a meeting at the MOE. I will likely be gone most of the day, but I’m happy to get out of the office for a bit.
Tuesday, September 02, 2008
Back from holidays
My week off was fabulous! Spent a total of 5 days at the cottage, which was nice. The weather this past weekend was gorgeous! Couldn’t have asked for any better.
Now it’s back to the grind. At least it’s a short week! And next week, I have Monday off since it’s my first anniversary. Carlos and I are going to Niagara Falls on Saturday morning and we’re staying until Monday. So, that will be a nice weekend away; it’s been several years since I’ve been to Niagara Falls.
I’m at 18 weeks now – wow! Almost halfway there! Tomorrow, we have another appointment with the midwife. Since our first midwife is on holidays this week, our appointment is with our second midwife. We haven’t met her before, so this will be good. I really like the fact that you meet 3 midwives over the course of the pregnancy and 2 of the 3 will be at the birth – guaranteed.
And it’s only 2 weeks now until the ultrasound! Yay!
Now it’s back to the grind. At least it’s a short week! And next week, I have Monday off since it’s my first anniversary. Carlos and I are going to Niagara Falls on Saturday morning and we’re staying until Monday. So, that will be a nice weekend away; it’s been several years since I’ve been to Niagara Falls.
I’m at 18 weeks now – wow! Almost halfway there! Tomorrow, we have another appointment with the midwife. Since our first midwife is on holidays this week, our appointment is with our second midwife. We haven’t met her before, so this will be good. I really like the fact that you meet 3 midwives over the course of the pregnancy and 2 of the 3 will be at the birth – guaranteed.
And it’s only 2 weeks now until the ultrasound! Yay!
Friday, August 29, 2008
Enjoying the time off
I'm having a great week off. The time at the cottage was very relaxing. The weather was nice too. A little on the cool side, but sunny, so I can't complain.
Yesterday, we went shopping all day. We got our crib bedding (mom is getting that for me for my birthday). I know it's 3 months early, but she wanted us to have it before we go our nursery renovations, which is in October so that we can pick paint colours, etc. This is our crib bedding, although the picture doesn't really do it justice since it's way more colourful and has more animals than the picture shows. But, you get the idea. We also got the cutest lightswitch cover to match.
I also got some more maternity clothes for the fall. I got 6 tops, a pair of jeans, and a dress for the weddings I have coming up. And then of course, I had to get a shawl and shoes to match the dress ;) So, all in all, it was a very successful shopping day.
So today I have a busy morning of errands (getting my hair highlighted and cut, signing up for prenatal pilates class, registering for prenatal class for Carlos and I, etc).
Then tomorrow, we are headed back up to the cottage until Monday. I don't want my holidays to be over!
Yesterday, we went shopping all day. We got our crib bedding (mom is getting that for me for my birthday). I know it's 3 months early, but she wanted us to have it before we go our nursery renovations, which is in October so that we can pick paint colours, etc. This is our crib bedding, although the picture doesn't really do it justice since it's way more colourful and has more animals than the picture shows. But, you get the idea. We also got the cutest lightswitch cover to match.
I also got some more maternity clothes for the fall. I got 6 tops, a pair of jeans, and a dress for the weddings I have coming up. And then of course, I had to get a shawl and shoes to match the dress ;) So, all in all, it was a very successful shopping day.
So today I have a busy morning of errands (getting my hair highlighted and cut, signing up for prenatal pilates class, registering for prenatal class for Carlos and I, etc).
Then tomorrow, we are headed back up to the cottage until Monday. I don't want my holidays to be over!
Thursday, August 21, 2008
How time flies
I can’t believe it’s already nearing the end of August! I haven’t really felt like we’ve had summer yet since the weather has been so crappy. I’ve only been swimming in my parents pool 3 times so far this year since now it’s too cold to swim in since it has been getting so cold at night, and that’s even with a solar blanket on the pool!
As of 3pm tomorrow, I am on vacation until September 2nd, so that’s exciting! On Saturday, I am going to see Mamma Mia (movie) with my mom and then we’re going to a party for a co-worker of mine (who my mom is also friends with). Carlos will be gone at a bachelor party all day, so mom and I are doing a girls day.
Then on Sunday, Carlos and I are heading to the cottage until Wednesday. It will be just the 2 of us, so it will be nice to have some time alone out there. Looks like the weather should be nice! Yay! Thursday, we are going shopping in the GTA with my mom in the hunt for some more maternity clothes. And I need to find a dress to wear to the 2 weddings we are going to in the next couple of months.
Friday, we are heading back up to the cottage until Labour Day with the family and then the Monday evening we have a BBQ at my parents house to celebrate Alex and Raeh’s engagement.
So, it will be a nice, relaxing week off with lots of time at the cottage. Just the way I like it!
As of 3pm tomorrow, I am on vacation until September 2nd, so that’s exciting! On Saturday, I am going to see Mamma Mia (movie) with my mom and then we’re going to a party for a co-worker of mine (who my mom is also friends with). Carlos will be gone at a bachelor party all day, so mom and I are doing a girls day.
Then on Sunday, Carlos and I are heading to the cottage until Wednesday. It will be just the 2 of us, so it will be nice to have some time alone out there. Looks like the weather should be nice! Yay! Thursday, we are going shopping in the GTA with my mom in the hunt for some more maternity clothes. And I need to find a dress to wear to the 2 weddings we are going to in the next couple of months.
Friday, we are heading back up to the cottage until Labour Day with the family and then the Monday evening we have a BBQ at my parents house to celebrate Alex and Raeh’s engagement.
So, it will be a nice, relaxing week off with lots of time at the cottage. Just the way I like it!
Tuesday, August 19, 2008
Oma’s diagnosis
Mom just called me and she's back from the appointment with Oma... they were there for 3 hours! And my uncle was there too, which was really good since now Oma can't accuse mom of making things up since there was another "witness" there.
Oma does NOT have Alzheimers, which is great! Her memory loss is likely related to the mini-strokes she's had in the last few years and restricted blood flow to the brain. They have prescribed medication that will help this and they are going to do more tests to confirm that this is what the problem is. The doctor is notifying the MTO that Oma can't drive, so that's official now, which is good. So, all in all, it was very positive, and we are relieved that she doesn't have Alzheimers!!!
Oma does NOT have Alzheimers, which is great! Her memory loss is likely related to the mini-strokes she's had in the last few years and restricted blood flow to the brain. They have prescribed medication that will help this and they are going to do more tests to confirm that this is what the problem is. The doctor is notifying the MTO that Oma can't drive, so that's official now, which is good. So, all in all, it was very positive, and we are relieved that she doesn't have Alzheimers!!!
Monday, August 18, 2008
Update
My weekend was great! On Saturday, we visited with Oma and she has really turned a corner, I think. She has really thought about things and has realized that mom only did what she thought was best because she cares. So, I don’t think she’s mad at mom anymore. In fact, Oma and mom went out to the cottage yesterday until today and mom said Oma is really coming to terms with things. Although, with her, every day is different, so she could wake up one morning and be totally mad again! But, we are thankful for the change in attitude. Her appointment with the gerontologist is tomorrow, so I am anxious to hear what happens there.
Also, in BIG news, my brother Alex is proposing to his girlfriend today! It is her birthday today, so he is planning on taking her on a picnic and proposing. He showed me the ring on the weekend and it’s gorgeous. I told him that he MUST get down on one knee when he proposes. I have always said, if there is no ring and no knee, it’s not a real proposal! Apparently, my mom also made a fuss saying he had to do the knee thing, so I think he got the message! I wouldn’t be surprised if they get married next summer. They are very young (she is 20 today and he is almost 23), but she has a good head on her shoulders and she’ll take good care of him (Alex is a real space cadet). So, that’s exciting!
Today, I have to go out of town for another meeting, so it’s a super long workday for me today… 8am to around midnight. But I am on holidays next week, so I don’t care! I will likely leave early on Friday since I’ll have the extra hours, but we’ll see. I may want to bank the overtime for all my medical appointments since I don’t think it’s fair to make the company compensate me for all my appointments, especially when they get more frequent as my pregnancy progresses.
I am at 16 weeks today! Yay!
EDIT 1:00pm
I am no longer going to the meeting tonight. My boss thinks he can handle this one on his own since he thinks it will be fairly straight forward. So, I'm happy! I don't have to work a 16 hour day today!
EDIT 3:00pm
It's official: my brother and Raeh are engaged! Very exciting!
Also, in BIG news, my brother Alex is proposing to his girlfriend today! It is her birthday today, so he is planning on taking her on a picnic and proposing. He showed me the ring on the weekend and it’s gorgeous. I told him that he MUST get down on one knee when he proposes. I have always said, if there is no ring and no knee, it’s not a real proposal! Apparently, my mom also made a fuss saying he had to do the knee thing, so I think he got the message! I wouldn’t be surprised if they get married next summer. They are very young (she is 20 today and he is almost 23), but she has a good head on her shoulders and she’ll take good care of him (Alex is a real space cadet). So, that’s exciting!
Today, I have to go out of town for another meeting, so it’s a super long workday for me today… 8am to around midnight. But I am on holidays next week, so I don’t care! I will likely leave early on Friday since I’ll have the extra hours, but we’ll see. I may want to bank the overtime for all my medical appointments since I don’t think it’s fair to make the company compensate me for all my appointments, especially when they get more frequent as my pregnancy progresses.
I am at 16 weeks today! Yay!
EDIT 1:00pm
I am no longer going to the meeting tonight. My boss thinks he can handle this one on his own since he thinks it will be fairly straight forward. So, I'm happy! I don't have to work a 16 hour day today!
EDIT 3:00pm
It's official: my brother and Raeh are engaged! Very exciting!
Saturday, August 16, 2008
Belly Pics
A couple of you have been asking, so here are a few pics of the belly progress so far.
This one was at 7 weeks. I'm not sure why my hubby didn't get my head in the pic!
This one is at 11 weeks.
And this one was at 15 weeks.
This one was at 7 weeks. I'm not sure why my hubby didn't get my head in the pic!
This one is at 11 weeks.
And this one was at 15 weeks.
Friday, August 15, 2008
TGIF
This has been a stressful week. Work has been frustrating (there have been times this week I’ve wanted to pull my hair out and cry). And there has been lots of drama/stress with Oma. Not to mention the crazy migraine I had on Monday. It’s been a difficult week. I’m trying my best to stay mellow though!
So, I am quite relieved that it’s Friday today. This weekend will be a good one, I’m sure. Today, I am getting together with my friend Liz after work. She lives in Toronto, but her parents are about a half hour from me and she’s at her parents’ house for a week, so I thought I’d jump on that chance to visit with her since I haven’t seen her in months! The rest of the weekend will be spent relaxing, doing some errands, and a visit with Carlos’ parents.
Only 1 more week of work until my week off! I can’t wait! Next Friday at 3pm can’t come soon enough! Then I’m off work until September 2nd!
EDIT 11:05am
My mom just called me and I guess my aunt and uncle had a meeting with Oma and mom this morning. For the first time ever, my uncle stood up for my mom. I think before the meeting he thought mom was over-reacting, but when he spent some time with Oma, it didn't take him long to realize what's happening. He told Oma that he is behind my mom and if she's going to be mad at mom, she needs to be mad at him too. He also said that if Oma continues to treat our family like this, he will put her in a home. He won't see our family ripped apart by this. So, my mom is feeling MUCH better now. And I think it was good for Oma to see that it's not just my mom that is concerned. My uncle kept saying that this is only because we care about her... so hopefully she realizes that.
He could only handle an hour with Oma before he started to get annoyed with her saying the same things over and over again and being fixated on holding a grudge and not forgiving, so I think he's begining to see what mom has to go through day in and day out. For some reason, Oma seems to think that everything was done behind her back, which was not the case, she just doesn't remember. And she thinks my mom is lying. And she won't get past that. But this is the same woman who turned on her best friend 40 years ago because she didn't think she handled it well when Oma was widowed the first time and 40 years later, when this friend wanted to establish a connection with Oma again, she turned her down. So we already know Oma is not one to forgive. And I wouldn't be surprised if Oma loses all her friends now because she thinks they are all against her too since they talked to my mom saying that they were concerned about Oma because they care. Oma is really mad about that.
So, I think I'm going to stay out of this now that my uncle knows what is going on. I am thinking maybe I won't go to the appointment on Tuesday now since I know mom has backup in him. I don't want Oma to turn against me too, she needs someone who she can trust. Not to mention, I don't want to get caught in the middle since stress is not good for the baby.
We are all pretty blown away with the fact that my uncle has really stepped up to help. I am so thankful for that!!!! So, today is a good day!
So, I am quite relieved that it’s Friday today. This weekend will be a good one, I’m sure. Today, I am getting together with my friend Liz after work. She lives in Toronto, but her parents are about a half hour from me and she’s at her parents’ house for a week, so I thought I’d jump on that chance to visit with her since I haven’t seen her in months! The rest of the weekend will be spent relaxing, doing some errands, and a visit with Carlos’ parents.
Only 1 more week of work until my week off! I can’t wait! Next Friday at 3pm can’t come soon enough! Then I’m off work until September 2nd!
EDIT 11:05am
My mom just called me and I guess my aunt and uncle had a meeting with Oma and mom this morning. For the first time ever, my uncle stood up for my mom. I think before the meeting he thought mom was over-reacting, but when he spent some time with Oma, it didn't take him long to realize what's happening. He told Oma that he is behind my mom and if she's going to be mad at mom, she needs to be mad at him too. He also said that if Oma continues to treat our family like this, he will put her in a home. He won't see our family ripped apart by this. So, my mom is feeling MUCH better now. And I think it was good for Oma to see that it's not just my mom that is concerned. My uncle kept saying that this is only because we care about her... so hopefully she realizes that.
He could only handle an hour with Oma before he started to get annoyed with her saying the same things over and over again and being fixated on holding a grudge and not forgiving, so I think he's begining to see what mom has to go through day in and day out. For some reason, Oma seems to think that everything was done behind her back, which was not the case, she just doesn't remember. And she thinks my mom is lying. And she won't get past that. But this is the same woman who turned on her best friend 40 years ago because she didn't think she handled it well when Oma was widowed the first time and 40 years later, when this friend wanted to establish a connection with Oma again, she turned her down. So we already know Oma is not one to forgive. And I wouldn't be surprised if Oma loses all her friends now because she thinks they are all against her too since they talked to my mom saying that they were concerned about Oma because they care. Oma is really mad about that.
So, I think I'm going to stay out of this now that my uncle knows what is going on. I am thinking maybe I won't go to the appointment on Tuesday now since I know mom has backup in him. I don't want Oma to turn against me too, she needs someone who she can trust. Not to mention, I don't want to get caught in the middle since stress is not good for the baby.
We are all pretty blown away with the fact that my uncle has really stepped up to help. I am so thankful for that!!!! So, today is a good day!
Thursday, August 14, 2008
Mom needs some back-up
Well, I decided that I’m going to go to Oma’s appointment on Tuesday morning. My mom really needs the support. My uncle will also be there, but he rarely spends time with Oma, so he doesn’t really know what’s been going on.
I stopped in for a few minutes yesterday after work and I walked in on Oma yelling at my mom. Apparently, Oma somehow is fixated on saying that mom took her car keys without telling her. Which is not the case. Mom took her car keys away over 6 weeks ago now, and of course she talked to Oma about it beforehand... and MANY times since. Well, Oma all of a sudden within the last 2 days decided that mom did this all behind her back. When mom says they talked about it many times, Oma just says mom is lying to her and that she can’t defend herself since she doesn’t remember what happened. And Oma has her key back now anyway, so I don’t know why she is so fixated on thinking mom is doing things behind her back and lying all the time.
It’s getting quite ugly. Oma stormed off and said to my mom “I hope someday your family treats you as badly as you’ve treated me!” And then she kept coming back with more hurtful things to say. So, I got my mom out of there for a bit. We went for dinner and then to the festival of lights where Kalan Porter was playing last night. So, we had a nice escape.
I feel so bad about this whole situation. I’m trying my best not to let it stress me out too much since stress isn’t good for the baby. I feel bad for Oma because I can imagine it must be hard on her to lose her mind and be in denial and I also feel bad for my mom because of the living hell Oma is putting her through. It would be so much different if their houses weren’t attached. But since mom works from home so much, she can’t get anything done since Oma comes over 30+ times a day to yell at her. It’s getting worse by the day. The appointment on Tuesday can’t come soon enough!
I’m hoping there is some medication Oma can take to help. But how do you get a forgetful woman to take medication when she insists there’s nothing wrong with her? Half the time she doesn’t know what month it is, much less day of the week. She insists she doesn’t need any help, so this could be tricky…
I think Oma should live half time at my aunt and uncles… it’s not fair that all the stress of this is put on my mom… time for my uncle to step up… but I doubt that’s going to happen.
I stopped in for a few minutes yesterday after work and I walked in on Oma yelling at my mom. Apparently, Oma somehow is fixated on saying that mom took her car keys without telling her. Which is not the case. Mom took her car keys away over 6 weeks ago now, and of course she talked to Oma about it beforehand... and MANY times since. Well, Oma all of a sudden within the last 2 days decided that mom did this all behind her back. When mom says they talked about it many times, Oma just says mom is lying to her and that she can’t defend herself since she doesn’t remember what happened. And Oma has her key back now anyway, so I don’t know why she is so fixated on thinking mom is doing things behind her back and lying all the time.
It’s getting quite ugly. Oma stormed off and said to my mom “I hope someday your family treats you as badly as you’ve treated me!” And then she kept coming back with more hurtful things to say. So, I got my mom out of there for a bit. We went for dinner and then to the festival of lights where Kalan Porter was playing last night. So, we had a nice escape.
I feel so bad about this whole situation. I’m trying my best not to let it stress me out too much since stress isn’t good for the baby. I feel bad for Oma because I can imagine it must be hard on her to lose her mind and be in denial and I also feel bad for my mom because of the living hell Oma is putting her through. It would be so much different if their houses weren’t attached. But since mom works from home so much, she can’t get anything done since Oma comes over 30+ times a day to yell at her. It’s getting worse by the day. The appointment on Tuesday can’t come soon enough!
I’m hoping there is some medication Oma can take to help. But how do you get a forgetful woman to take medication when she insists there’s nothing wrong with her? Half the time she doesn’t know what month it is, much less day of the week. She insists she doesn’t need any help, so this could be tricky…
I think Oma should live half time at my aunt and uncles… it’s not fair that all the stress of this is put on my mom… time for my uncle to step up… but I doubt that’s going to happen.
Tuesday, August 12, 2008
Made it through migraine #2
Well, I had my 2nd pregnancy migraine yesterday – no fun. It lasted a full 24 hours – from Sunday evening until yesterday evening. I had to stay home yesterday; all I could do was lie flat with a cold compress on my head. If I tried to do anything else, my head pounded like crazy. And it didn’t help that we had 3 thunderstorms during the day so every crash of thunder and every car that drove by on the wet roads were torture! It was a difficult day for sure and Tylenol did nothing. But, luckily, it only lasted 24 hours and I am feeling MUCH better today. I hope I don’t have any more of those! Although, if I’ve already had 2 in the 3.5 months I’ve been pregnant, chances are there are more to come. I will definitely talk to my midwife about it at my next appointment to see if there is anything I can do. I felt bad about missing work, but that’s only the 2nd day I’ve called in sick since I became pregnant, so that’s not too bad. And there is no way I would have been able to function at the office, so it was for the best.
The Oma drama has continued. She found a car key somewhere and went out driving even though she technically doesn’t have a license. She did pass her MTO test, but never went to the office to get her license renewed. Her appointment with the gerontologist is next Tuesday, so we are anxious to hear what she has to say. It’s getting worse by the week. Now Oma is at the stage where she is lashing out at mom accusing mom of making this whole thing up and being against her. She’s saying mom has been telling lies to everyone and turning everyone against her. Nobody is against her! She’s saying things like “I can’t believe this is how you treat an old woman, especially your mother… after everything I’ve done for you!” And anytime my dad tries to stick up for my mom, Oma just yells at him to stay out of it. Oma insists that someone else needs to come to the appointment on the 19th so that there is a “witness” as to what the doctor says because Oma no longer trusts my mom. My mom already told my uncle that he needs to be there as well anyways since she can’t handle this on her own. What a mess. I wouldn’t be surprised if Oma has Alzheimers since it seems like that’s what this is. But, we’ll wait and see what the doctor says. My poor mom!
I’m at 15 weeks now – wow! I have been taking weekly pictures of how my body has been changing, so I will post a couple of those when I get a chance, likely on the weekend.
Oh, and our ultrasound is booked – September 16th at 9:10am! Yay!
The Oma drama has continued. She found a car key somewhere and went out driving even though she technically doesn’t have a license. She did pass her MTO test, but never went to the office to get her license renewed. Her appointment with the gerontologist is next Tuesday, so we are anxious to hear what she has to say. It’s getting worse by the week. Now Oma is at the stage where she is lashing out at mom accusing mom of making this whole thing up and being against her. She’s saying mom has been telling lies to everyone and turning everyone against her. Nobody is against her! She’s saying things like “I can’t believe this is how you treat an old woman, especially your mother… after everything I’ve done for you!” And anytime my dad tries to stick up for my mom, Oma just yells at him to stay out of it. Oma insists that someone else needs to come to the appointment on the 19th so that there is a “witness” as to what the doctor says because Oma no longer trusts my mom. My mom already told my uncle that he needs to be there as well anyways since she can’t handle this on her own. What a mess. I wouldn’t be surprised if Oma has Alzheimers since it seems like that’s what this is. But, we’ll wait and see what the doctor says. My poor mom!
I’m at 15 weeks now – wow! I have been taking weekly pictures of how my body has been changing, so I will post a couple of those when I get a chance, likely on the weekend.
Oh, and our ultrasound is booked – September 16th at 9:10am! Yay!
Friday, August 08, 2008
We have a heartbeat!
:)
We went to see the midwife this afternoon and my mom came to this appointment, in addition to Carlos. We got to hear the heartbeat! It took the midwife a few minutes to find it since the baby was higher up than she was expecting. So, just as I was starting to get nervous, she found it! And it was the most amazing thing I've ever heard!!!!! Heart-rate was strong at 168 bpm. Midwife said that's perfect for this stage of pregnancy.
I am SOOOOOOOOO happy and relieved!!!!!!!!!!!!
We went to see the midwife this afternoon and my mom came to this appointment, in addition to Carlos. We got to hear the heartbeat! It took the midwife a few minutes to find it since the baby was higher up than she was expecting. So, just as I was starting to get nervous, she found it! And it was the most amazing thing I've ever heard!!!!! Heart-rate was strong at 168 bpm. Midwife said that's perfect for this stage of pregnancy.
I am SOOOOOOOOO happy and relieved!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thursday, August 07, 2008
So glad it’s already Thursday
Yay for short work weeks!
I have been really tired this week, so I am looking forward to a quiet weekend at home. We don’t have too much planned, which is nice. I really need to catch up on some sleep. And of course, watch some Olympics ;)
I’m a week into the second trimester, which is nice. It seems like a LONG time until my due date though… which I guess is a good thing since we have so much to do to get ready! Baby is the size of a lemon this week! Tomorrow is the big day: we finally get to hear the baby’s heartbeat! I’m so excited; only 1 more sleep!
Only 2 weeks left of work after this one until my week off! I am really looking forward to the break! Similar to our last week off, we’re going to be spending most of it at the cottage with a day of shopping in the GTA in the middle. I really need to find some maternity jeans and a couple more tops.
I have been really tired this week, so I am looking forward to a quiet weekend at home. We don’t have too much planned, which is nice. I really need to catch up on some sleep. And of course, watch some Olympics ;)
I’m a week into the second trimester, which is nice. It seems like a LONG time until my due date though… which I guess is a good thing since we have so much to do to get ready! Baby is the size of a lemon this week! Tomorrow is the big day: we finally get to hear the baby’s heartbeat! I’m so excited; only 1 more sleep!
Only 2 weeks left of work after this one until my week off! I am really looking forward to the break! Similar to our last week off, we’re going to be spending most of it at the cottage with a day of shopping in the GTA in the middle. I really need to find some maternity jeans and a couple more tops.
Tuesday, August 05, 2008
Sleeeeeeepy
I am feeling pretty tired this afternoon. And I don’t think it’s all pregnancy related, I think some of it is due to the fact that I slept on a mattress on the floor at our hotel in Montreal since the beds were so slanty ;) Despite the hotel misfortunes, I had a great time in Montreal with the girls. And we can laugh about our hotel room now, since it seems like we didn’t have it as bad as some other guests we were talking… at least our bathroom had a ceiling ;)
I reached 14 weeks yesterday – yay! I think my belly grew a lot while I was in Montreal because Carlos said I was showing a lot more when I got home after being away for 3 days. Now, how much of that is related to baby and how much is related to over-eating in Montreal is not known! Ha! I think he’s right though, I think I am starting to look pregnant. Maybe not to strangers yet, but I can definitely tell now… exciting!
Only 3 more days until we get to hear our baby’s heartbeat – I can’t wait until Friday afternoon at 3:30pm! It’s going to be such a special moment. I’m sure both mom and I will cry… but they are probably used to that in the midwife’s office; I’m sure it happens all the time.
I reached 14 weeks yesterday – yay! I think my belly grew a lot while I was in Montreal because Carlos said I was showing a lot more when I got home after being away for 3 days. Now, how much of that is related to baby and how much is related to over-eating in Montreal is not known! Ha! I think he’s right though, I think I am starting to look pregnant. Maybe not to strangers yet, but I can definitely tell now… exciting!
Only 3 more days until we get to hear our baby’s heartbeat – I can’t wait until Friday afternoon at 3:30pm! It’s going to be such a special moment. I’m sure both mom and I will cry… but they are probably used to that in the midwife’s office; I’m sure it happens all the time.
Thursday, July 31, 2008
Hello Second Trimester!
Finally!
Actually, when I think about it, it doesn’t seem that long ago that I found out I was pregnant. But then on the other hand, I was so looking forward to the second trimester that the last several weeks have seemed to go by slowly! I can pretty much put the worry of miscarriage behind me at this point. I don’t know why I was worried about it, I guess because so many people I know have gone through that, so I felt like I couldn’t really relax until I hit the second trimester, when the risk goes WAY down. Although, my mom told me that being a mommy means I will worry about everything with respect to my child for the rest of my life! Oh great ;)
I am feeling better these days. I haven’t felt queasy in over a week, which is nice. And I do have some of my energy back. I’m still tired and have been going to bed at 9pm, but I don’t feel like a zombie during the day anymore, so that’s good.
Even though this has been a short week for me since I didn’t work on Monday, it has seemed to go by slowly. I guess part of that could be due to the fact that I am really excited about the upcoming trip to Montreal with the girls!
Today is my dad’s birthday; he turned 58 today! We’re having dinner at my parents house tonight to celebrate : )
Actually, when I think about it, it doesn’t seem that long ago that I found out I was pregnant. But then on the other hand, I was so looking forward to the second trimester that the last several weeks have seemed to go by slowly! I can pretty much put the worry of miscarriage behind me at this point. I don’t know why I was worried about it, I guess because so many people I know have gone through that, so I felt like I couldn’t really relax until I hit the second trimester, when the risk goes WAY down. Although, my mom told me that being a mommy means I will worry about everything with respect to my child for the rest of my life! Oh great ;)
I am feeling better these days. I haven’t felt queasy in over a week, which is nice. And I do have some of my energy back. I’m still tired and have been going to bed at 9pm, but I don’t feel like a zombie during the day anymore, so that’s good.
Even though this has been a short week for me since I didn’t work on Monday, it has seemed to go by slowly. I guess part of that could be due to the fact that I am really excited about the upcoming trip to Montreal with the girls!
Today is my dad’s birthday; he turned 58 today! We’re having dinner at my parents house tonight to celebrate : )
Tuesday, July 29, 2008
Good weekend
The Weird Al concert was AMAZING! What a talented guy! For every song, he came out in a different outfit (i.e. for “Canadian Idiot” he came out as Billy Joel Armstrong, for “Eat It” he came out dressed as Michael Jackson, for “I’m Fat”, he came out in a fat suit, etc.). It was very funny and entertaining! Of course, we couldn’t get out of the parking lot for half an hour after the show because of congestion. We finally got home around 1:45am and I had to get up at 5am for work on Saturday morning. But it was well worth it ;)
I actually wasn’t too tired during the day. I was awake and alert for the meeting, which was good since there were over 100 people there and 90% of them were VERY opposed to the project. But, they weren’t mad at us, they were mad at Council. We got through the meeting and I was home by 4:30pm. Then, I crashed. I managed to stay up until 7pm, and then I had to go to bed. I slept for 12 hours! Guess I had to catch up from the 3 hours of sleep the night before!
Oma had a bit of an ordeal last week. She was at my aunt and uncle’s cottage for almost 2 weeks. Turns out she choked on a fish bone awhile back. She complained that it hurt to swallow, etc. Finally, AFTER 10 DAYS, my uncle drove her back into town and dropped her off at her place and told my dad that she needed to go to the hospital. Ummm, why didn’t he take her A LONG TIME AGO!?!?! Sheesh! So, my dad drove her to the hospital and she had to see 3 doctors. In the end, there was something lodged in her throat and she had to have surgery the next day to remove it. I can’t believe my aunt and uncle would be so negligent! If that had gotten infected, her throat could have closed up and she could have died! I guess my dad really laid it into them and in the end, they realized that yes, they shouldn’t have let it go 10 days. Needless to say, my mom is not going to get Oma go stay with them for long periods of time again! They obviously don’t take good care of her!
Since I worked a full 10+ hour day on Saturday, I took yesterday off. Mom and I went shopping in town for some more maternity clothes since I just can’t fit into my regular clothes anymore. I did have some stuff that I bought at Motherhood Maternity a few weeks ago, but I wanted to get one more pair of pants (I wanted jeans) and a few more tops. First, we tried Zellers. They had 2 little racks of stuff, and none of it was worth getting. I tried on a few things, but nothing was right. Then, we went to Sears. They don’t carry maternity clothes in store, you have to order it through their catalogue! No thanks; I like to try stuff on first! Then we went to a little store in one of the malls here that had some stuff. I ended up getting 1 shirt there. Last, we tried Wal-mart, and they actually had the most stuff. They had about 3 racks of stuff and I ended up getting 1 pair of comfy dress pants and 3 shirts. So, I guess I did okay! It made me realize that there is a real market in town for a maternity store! I didn’t find jeans, so that’s one item I will definitely need to get at some point. We’ll have to take a trip to the GTA at some point in the next month or so to get a couple more items. I have enough to last me for a bit though.
I reached 13 weeks yesterday! Tomorrow is my last day of the 1st trimester; I start the 2nd trimester on Thursday! Yay! I can’t wait until August 8th when we have another appointment with the midwife to hear the heartbeat. I thought it was very nice of them to let me come back in 2 weeks just to hear the heartbeat (at this stage of the pregnancy, appointments are every 4 weeks). So, instead of making us wait until our next full appointment, she said to come back for a quick appointment just to get to hear our baby. I will be at 14.5 weeks by then, so we should definitely be able to hear it at that appointment! It was just a little early at our appointment on Friday, and we knew that going in. I was reassured in the fact that there was two times when she did find the heartbeat for a second. She just couldn’t get it for longer than that since the baby was still so low. The uterus was still in my pelvis and just barely peeking over my pubic bone, so that’s why it was so difficult to pick it up. By my next appointment, my uterus should be up into my abdomen, so no bones in the way!
I actually wasn’t too tired during the day. I was awake and alert for the meeting, which was good since there were over 100 people there and 90% of them were VERY opposed to the project. But, they weren’t mad at us, they were mad at Council. We got through the meeting and I was home by 4:30pm. Then, I crashed. I managed to stay up until 7pm, and then I had to go to bed. I slept for 12 hours! Guess I had to catch up from the 3 hours of sleep the night before!
Oma had a bit of an ordeal last week. She was at my aunt and uncle’s cottage for almost 2 weeks. Turns out she choked on a fish bone awhile back. She complained that it hurt to swallow, etc. Finally, AFTER 10 DAYS, my uncle drove her back into town and dropped her off at her place and told my dad that she needed to go to the hospital. Ummm, why didn’t he take her A LONG TIME AGO!?!?! Sheesh! So, my dad drove her to the hospital and she had to see 3 doctors. In the end, there was something lodged in her throat and she had to have surgery the next day to remove it. I can’t believe my aunt and uncle would be so negligent! If that had gotten infected, her throat could have closed up and she could have died! I guess my dad really laid it into them and in the end, they realized that yes, they shouldn’t have let it go 10 days. Needless to say, my mom is not going to get Oma go stay with them for long periods of time again! They obviously don’t take good care of her!
Since I worked a full 10+ hour day on Saturday, I took yesterday off. Mom and I went shopping in town for some more maternity clothes since I just can’t fit into my regular clothes anymore. I did have some stuff that I bought at Motherhood Maternity a few weeks ago, but I wanted to get one more pair of pants (I wanted jeans) and a few more tops. First, we tried Zellers. They had 2 little racks of stuff, and none of it was worth getting. I tried on a few things, but nothing was right. Then, we went to Sears. They don’t carry maternity clothes in store, you have to order it through their catalogue! No thanks; I like to try stuff on first! Then we went to a little store in one of the malls here that had some stuff. I ended up getting 1 shirt there. Last, we tried Wal-mart, and they actually had the most stuff. They had about 3 racks of stuff and I ended up getting 1 pair of comfy dress pants and 3 shirts. So, I guess I did okay! It made me realize that there is a real market in town for a maternity store! I didn’t find jeans, so that’s one item I will definitely need to get at some point. We’ll have to take a trip to the GTA at some point in the next month or so to get a couple more items. I have enough to last me for a bit though.
I reached 13 weeks yesterday! Tomorrow is my last day of the 1st trimester; I start the 2nd trimester on Thursday! Yay! I can’t wait until August 8th when we have another appointment with the midwife to hear the heartbeat. I thought it was very nice of them to let me come back in 2 weeks just to hear the heartbeat (at this stage of the pregnancy, appointments are every 4 weeks). So, instead of making us wait until our next full appointment, she said to come back for a quick appointment just to get to hear our baby. I will be at 14.5 weeks by then, so we should definitely be able to hear it at that appointment! It was just a little early at our appointment on Friday, and we knew that going in. I was reassured in the fact that there was two times when she did find the heartbeat for a second. She just couldn’t get it for longer than that since the baby was still so low. The uterus was still in my pelvis and just barely peeking over my pubic bone, so that’s why it was so difficult to pick it up. By my next appointment, my uterus should be up into my abdomen, so no bones in the way!
Friday, July 25, 2008
A little disappointed...
The midwife was unable to find the heartbeat today. She told us before she tried not to be worried if we couldn't hear it as it is still early. She said my uterus was just barely above my pubic bone, so there was only a chance at this point. So, I am disappointed, but I'm not worried. There were 2 times when she said she could hear it for a second, so I know it's in there! Baby just wasn't high enough in my uterus yet. She said afterwards that it's no cause for concern that we can't hear it yet.
So, instead of making us wait until our next regular appointment in 4 weeks, we go back in 2 weeks just for a quick appointment to listen for the heartbeat. There is a MUCH better chance we'll be able to hear it then.
We're off to the concert soon!
So, instead of making us wait until our next regular appointment in 4 weeks, we go back in 2 weeks just for a quick appointment to listen for the heartbeat. There is a MUCH better chance we'll be able to hear it then.
We're off to the concert soon!
Today is the day
Finally, our second appointment with the midwife! I am really excited!
All but 2 people in the office know the news now, and the 2 I haven’t told yet are out of the office until next week. It was so much fun going around yesterday telling people the news. Everyone is really happy for me. They want to go out for lunch with me at some point soon to celebrate, that may happen today, depending on if we’re all prepped for the meeting tomorrow. Otherwise, sometime next week.
Since I’m working tomorrow, I think I’ll take Monday off. I am planning on going shopping on Monday to some places in town (i.e. Sears, Walmart, Zellers) for some more maternity clothes since now I can start wearing them to work! I can finally shop in town without worrying who is going to see me… the word is officially out now! No more doing the dance routine every morning trying to fit into my regular pants ;)
Also, we’re going to see Weird Al tonight… should be a hoot!
All but 2 people in the office know the news now, and the 2 I haven’t told yet are out of the office until next week. It was so much fun going around yesterday telling people the news. Everyone is really happy for me. They want to go out for lunch with me at some point soon to celebrate, that may happen today, depending on if we’re all prepped for the meeting tomorrow. Otherwise, sometime next week.
Since I’m working tomorrow, I think I’ll take Monday off. I am planning on going shopping on Monday to some places in town (i.e. Sears, Walmart, Zellers) for some more maternity clothes since now I can start wearing them to work! I can finally shop in town without worrying who is going to see me… the word is officially out now! No more doing the dance routine every morning trying to fit into my regular pants ;)
Also, we’re going to see Weird Al tonight… should be a hoot!
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