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Thursday, July 31, 2008

Hello Second Trimester!

Finally!

Actually, when I think about it, it doesn’t seem that long ago that I found out I was pregnant. But then on the other hand, I was so looking forward to the second trimester that the last several weeks have seemed to go by slowly! I can pretty much put the worry of miscarriage behind me at this point. I don’t know why I was worried about it, I guess because so many people I know have gone through that, so I felt like I couldn’t really relax until I hit the second trimester, when the risk goes WAY down. Although, my mom told me that being a mommy means I will worry about everything with respect to my child for the rest of my life! Oh great ;)

I am feeling better these days. I haven’t felt queasy in over a week, which is nice. And I do have some of my energy back. I’m still tired and have been going to bed at 9pm, but I don’t feel like a zombie during the day anymore, so that’s good.

Even though this has been a short week for me since I didn’t work on Monday, it has seemed to go by slowly. I guess part of that could be due to the fact that I am really excited about the upcoming trip to Montreal with the girls!

Today is my dad’s birthday; he turned 58 today! We’re having dinner at my parents house tonight to celebrate : )

Tuesday, July 29, 2008

Good weekend

The Weird Al concert was AMAZING! What a talented guy! For every song, he came out in a different outfit (i.e. for “Canadian Idiot” he came out as Billy Joel Armstrong, for “Eat It” he came out dressed as Michael Jackson, for “I’m Fat”, he came out in a fat suit, etc.). It was very funny and entertaining! Of course, we couldn’t get out of the parking lot for half an hour after the show because of congestion. We finally got home around 1:45am and I had to get up at 5am for work on Saturday morning. But it was well worth it ;)

I actually wasn’t too tired during the day. I was awake and alert for the meeting, which was good since there were over 100 people there and 90% of them were VERY opposed to the project. But, they weren’t mad at us, they were mad at Council. We got through the meeting and I was home by 4:30pm. Then, I crashed. I managed to stay up until 7pm, and then I had to go to bed. I slept for 12 hours! Guess I had to catch up from the 3 hours of sleep the night before!

Oma had a bit of an ordeal last week. She was at my aunt and uncle’s cottage for almost 2 weeks. Turns out she choked on a fish bone awhile back. She complained that it hurt to swallow, etc. Finally, AFTER 10 DAYS, my uncle drove her back into town and dropped her off at her place and told my dad that she needed to go to the hospital. Ummm, why didn’t he take her A LONG TIME AGO!?!?! Sheesh! So, my dad drove her to the hospital and she had to see 3 doctors. In the end, there was something lodged in her throat and she had to have surgery the next day to remove it. I can’t believe my aunt and uncle would be so negligent! If that had gotten infected, her throat could have closed up and she could have died! I guess my dad really laid it into them and in the end, they realized that yes, they shouldn’t have let it go 10 days. Needless to say, my mom is not going to get Oma go stay with them for long periods of time again! They obviously don’t take good care of her!

Since I worked a full 10+ hour day on Saturday, I took yesterday off. Mom and I went shopping in town for some more maternity clothes since I just can’t fit into my regular clothes anymore. I did have some stuff that I bought at Motherhood Maternity a few weeks ago, but I wanted to get one more pair of pants (I wanted jeans) and a few more tops. First, we tried Zellers. They had 2 little racks of stuff, and none of it was worth getting. I tried on a few things, but nothing was right. Then, we went to Sears. They don’t carry maternity clothes in store, you have to order it through their catalogue! No thanks; I like to try stuff on first! Then we went to a little store in one of the malls here that had some stuff. I ended up getting 1 shirt there. Last, we tried Wal-mart, and they actually had the most stuff. They had about 3 racks of stuff and I ended up getting 1 pair of comfy dress pants and 3 shirts. So, I guess I did okay! It made me realize that there is a real market in town for a maternity store! I didn’t find jeans, so that’s one item I will definitely need to get at some point. We’ll have to take a trip to the GTA at some point in the next month or so to get a couple more items. I have enough to last me for a bit though.

I reached 13 weeks yesterday! Tomorrow is my last day of the 1st trimester; I start the 2nd trimester on Thursday! Yay! I can’t wait until August 8th when we have another appointment with the midwife to hear the heartbeat. I thought it was very nice of them to let me come back in 2 weeks just to hear the heartbeat (at this stage of the pregnancy, appointments are every 4 weeks). So, instead of making us wait until our next full appointment, she said to come back for a quick appointment just to get to hear our baby. I will be at 14.5 weeks by then, so we should definitely be able to hear it at that appointment! It was just a little early at our appointment on Friday, and we knew that going in. I was reassured in the fact that there was two times when she did find the heartbeat for a second. She just couldn’t get it for longer than that since the baby was still so low. The uterus was still in my pelvis and just barely peeking over my pubic bone, so that’s why it was so difficult to pick it up. By my next appointment, my uterus should be up into my abdomen, so no bones in the way!

Friday, July 25, 2008

A little disappointed...

The midwife was unable to find the heartbeat today. She told us before she tried not to be worried if we couldn't hear it as it is still early. She said my uterus was just barely above my pubic bone, so there was only a chance at this point. So, I am disappointed, but I'm not worried. There were 2 times when she said she could hear it for a second, so I know it's in there! Baby just wasn't high enough in my uterus yet. She said afterwards that it's no cause for concern that we can't hear it yet.

So, instead of making us wait until our next regular appointment in 4 weeks, we go back in 2 weeks just for a quick appointment to listen for the heartbeat. There is a MUCH better chance we'll be able to hear it then.

We're off to the concert soon!

Today is the day

Finally, our second appointment with the midwife! I am really excited!

All but 2 people in the office know the news now, and the 2 I haven’t told yet are out of the office until next week. It was so much fun going around yesterday telling people the news. Everyone is really happy for me. They want to go out for lunch with me at some point soon to celebrate, that may happen today, depending on if we’re all prepped for the meeting tomorrow. Otherwise, sometime next week.

Since I’m working tomorrow, I think I’ll take Monday off. I am planning on going shopping on Monday to some places in town (i.e. Sears, Walmart, Zellers) for some more maternity clothes since now I can start wearing them to work! I can finally shop in town without worrying who is going to see me… the word is officially out now! No more doing the dance routine every morning trying to fit into my regular pants ;)

Also, we’re going to see Weird Al tonight… should be a hoot!

Thursday, July 24, 2008

Well that went well

I just told my boss the news. It went amazingly well. I was quite nervous, so we talked for 15 minutes first about projects I’m working on, the meeting coming up on Saturday, etc. Then I finally said “I have some news” and he had this look on his face like he knew what was coming. I said “I’m having a baby”. And he said he already suspected way back last month when we went out for our annual review and I didn’t have a drink. He said it wasn’t like me not to have a drink with them… hehe! He is very happy for me and says we’ll sit down sometime soon to come up with a strategy to deal with work while I am on mat leave. He doesn’t think it will be a problem, especially since we have 5+ months to figure this out.

I am so relieved! Now I just have to tell the rest of my coworkers. I may tell some people this week, or I may wait until next week. We’ll see how it goes.

Wednesday, July 23, 2008

The ups and downs

Towards the end of last week, I was starting to feel better. Then yesterday, the queasiness was back in full force. So much, in fact, that I was considering working from home for part of the day. I was going to let my boss know and I thought that would be a good lead in to telling him the news. But, every time I went down to his office, he was either on the phone, talking with someone else, or left the building completely. So, I never had a chance to talk to him. So, I decided to stick it out at the office yesterday and I was feeling better in the afternoon.

This morning, I woke up feeling fine. So, it really does vary from day to day now. I’ve gone from feeling crappy every day to maybe only half the time. That’s improvement! I have also noticed that I’m not quite as zombie-like these days. Still tired, but not nearly to the same degree. I guess I am only a week away from the second trimester – yay!

I was initially thinking I’d wait until after my appointment on Friday before I spilled the beans at work, but there is only a chance that we can hear the heartbeat at this point in the pregnancy anyway. And since I am still feeling queasy off and on, and my belly is growing, I know the baby is still doing okay. So, even in the event that we can’t hear the heartbeat on Friday, I’m still going to want to spread the news. I know logically that at this point, the chances of a miscarriage are quite low. Most miscarriages happen before a woman even knows she’s pregnant. After that, it seems like there is an increased risk before about the 10 week mark. My doctor did say, once you get to 13 weeks, the risk goes WAY down, and I’m almost there! And, heaven forbid, if I did have a miscarriage this late in the game, I think I’d want my boss to at least know since I would probably need a couple days off.

So, I think I will tell my boss this week, likely today or tomorrow. I’m really not looking forward to that conversation, but I will be so glad to get it over with. Since we’re such a new company (2 years old), I will be the first pregnant employee, so I really don’t know how he’ll react. My boss is a very nice and reasonable guy, so I’m not really sure why I’m so nervous. And when you look at our company of 12 employees, 5 of us are women, and 4 of the 5 of us are in our mid to late 20’s and either married or common-law. So, if my boss was smart, he’d realize this was going to happen at some point in the near future!

EDIT 12:28pm

Well, my boss left the office for the rest of the day, so I guess I waited too long to be able to tell him today! I will try to track him down tomorrow to tell him the news. That will give me an extra day to get up my nerve. Unless he does the disappearing act again tomorrow, at this rate, I may have to wait until next week anyways ;)

Monday, July 21, 2008

It’s going to be a long week!

I had a hard time getting out of bed this morning. Especially since I know this week is going to be a super long one. I have a public meeting to go to on Saturday which is 3 hours away, which means I’ll need to leave the house at 5:30am at the latest. And I’m out late on Friday night at a Weird Al concert, so I’ll be lucky if I’m home before 1am. At least CT is driving to the concert so I can sleep on the way home! I’m not looking forward to Saturday since this is the project where we are proposing to expand a landfill and many people are opposed to the project and have hired lawyers, etc. Should be an interesting meeting. Hopefully I’ll be home by about 4pm and then I’ll likely have a nap.

We have no idea how this happened, but Oma passed her drivers license test with the MTO. We are still not giving her the keys back though. All along, mom made sure to remind Oma that regardless of what happens with her test with the MTO, the gerontologist still needs to give the okay for her to drive. My mom is out of town this week and she took Oma’s car to the airport, so at least we don’t have to worry about Oma driving this week. Oma’s appointment with the gerontologist is on August 19th, so we just have to hold her off until then.

My ‘date’ on Friday with Mary was good. I told her the good news and she is really excited. Her son is 5 and he’s adorable when Mary told him I’m going to have a baby, he said right away “How much babies?” Most likely one! He said he wanted me to have 10! Mary and I went out for seafood and then to see The Dark Knight, which was quite good. Really long, but it was definitely worth seeing.

As of today, I’m at 12 weeks. Yay! I am SO EXCITED for my appointment on Friday with the midwife! I’m really hoping we can hear the heartbeat at that appointment! Then I can finally tell my co-workers (along with the rest of the world!). I have been keeping this from them for almost 2 months now, and I just really want to tell them since I’ll feel so relieved when they know. I’ve been having some strange dreams about me telling my boss lately and he has had several reactions, some good, some not so good. I will be so glad to get that conversation over with! I will be telling him sometime next week.

Thursday, July 17, 2008

Why did I want to do computer modeling?

I have been trying to set up my first model for the last couple of days. I CANNOT get the flow model to calibrate. Every time I get close, I try to get it closer and it just makes it worse. I gave up for now, I am wasting too much time. I will have to ask the other modeler for help (for the third time). We sat down together yesterday, and she didn’t know what was wrong either. Sheesh! I gave up until tomorrow. I need to get some other work done this afternoon. Very frustrating!!! I want to pull my hair out and cry.

Otherwise, I have been feeling pretty good in the last couple of days. No headaches and even my queasiness has subsided a bit. I guess I am only 2 weeks away from the second trimester, so I could start feeling better anytime now.

Can’t wait for the weekend! Tomorrow I am telling one of my friends the news and I can’t wait!

Tuesday, July 15, 2008

Coming out of the fog

Yesterday, I had the worst headache. Normally, I would take an advil and I’d be fine in 20 minutes, but I didn’t want to take any drugs if I could help it. So, I suffered all day. When I got home, I checked the materials the midwife gave me, and there is a page where you can look up which medications are safe. Turns out Tylenol is safe. So, I searched the house far and wide, and did find some, but it had expired over 8 years ago – man, how long do I keep things?!?!? I think I need to do a purge!

Seeing how much I was suffering, CT went out and got me some Tylenol. I was trying really hard not to take any drugs, but after 14 hours of being in pain with my head pounding, I finally gave in at 9pm last night and took 1 regular strength Tylenol. It took the pain away enough for me to get to sleep.

I still have a very minor headache this morning, but as long as it doesn’t get any worse, I won’t need any more drugs.

That was brutal! I’m glad I know now that Tylenol is safe so if I get another headache like that, I’ll take the drugs sooner to get some relief. Only if I really need it though, I don’t want to make it a habit.

Baby is the size of a plum this week! Adorable!

My mom is leaving on Sunday to go to Minnesota for a week (as part of her PhD program). She is very nervous about leaving Oma by herself. I guess TWICE on Sunday afternoon, Oma forgot that she doesn’t have a driver’s license and made plans to drive somewhere. When she couldn’t find her keys (because mom took them away for precisely this reason), mom had to remind her that she doesn’t have a license. Then Oma got really mad at mom saying it was her fault since she cancelled the appointment for her drivers test. Oma seems to have forgotten that the reason mom cancelled it was because it was the same day as her laser surgery in her eye! So, next week should be interesting with my mom gone and my dad working out of town. Oma will be left to her own devices most of the time. I will go to check on her in the evenings, but she will be alone during the day. Unless my brothers are around, but I never know with their schedule.

Monday, July 14, 2008

I had a relaxing weekend

I decided not to go to the cottage on the weekend. Turns out both my brothers and my dad bailed, so it was just going to be my mom (who was taking work to do for the entire weekend and wouldn’t have much free time), Oma, Oma’s friend, and me. So, I decided to stay home instead. I had the day to myself on Saturday since CT was at his baseball tournament. I actually had a couple hours of energy on Saturday (which I haven’t had in weeks), so I decided to make the most of it and I washed all the floors in the house. It took a lot out of me, but I was so glad to get it done! I swiffered first, and between that and the mopping, I swear I cleaned up a whole cat’s worth of fur. Yikes! It feels so good to have clean floors now, so I have a plan to swiffer once a week and mop at least once a month to keep them clean.

After feeling quite good on Saturday (very little queasiness and some energy), I thought I may be getting my energy back. But, yesterday, I was back to feeling like a zombie and feeling very queasy. So, I had a one day reprieve and now the feeling crappy and tired are back.

I’m at 11 weeks as of today, so that feels good! On Friday, I am getting together with a friend (former coworker) and I am really excited to tell her my news. I figured I will be within a week or two of telling everyone else, so I can tell her early. We’re getting together for dinner and to go see a movie, so there’s no way I could keep this from her! She’ll be so excited! And I’ll be sure to tell her that I haven’t told work yet, just in case she talks to any of my coworkers anytime soon, she’ll know not to say anything.

I think I am definitely starting to show now. Of course, I notice it more since I look at myself all the time. But CT has also said that it is noticeable now. It also depends what clothes I’m wearing. I put on a pair of my maternity pants yesterday since I wanted to be comfy and you can definitely tell when I’m wearing those! Although, if someone didn’t know I was pregnant, it would probably just look like I’m gaining weight. We went to CT’s parents house for lunch yesterday and right away his mom says “wow, you’re getting big!” So, I guess it is noticeable! That’s why I don’t want to wear my maternity clothes to work until the word is out. My regular clothes are getting tighter by the day, but I think I can hold out a little longer. I am trying to wait until my next appointment with the midwife, which is on the 25th. If we hear the heartbeat at that appointment, then I can finally tell my coworkers. It will feel so good to get the news out. Even though I’m not looking forward to telling them, I will be so relieved when they know. Then I can start wearing my maternity clothes and not try to hide my growing belly anymore! It’s becoming quite a trick every morning trying to find something to wear that doesn’t look like it’s way too small. It seems like every day more and more items from my wardrobe no longer fit, so I have a smaller and smaller pool of clothes to pick from. This is tricky!

Thursday, July 10, 2008

Wishing I was in bed...

My boss (he came into the office for yesterday even though he’s on holidays) asked me if I’d be interested in going to a golf tournament tomorrow. Considering I haven’t golfed in 4 years, I am hoping someone else will be able to go instead. I really don’t want to go since it would be a long day (it’s 3 hours away) and I am just not up to traveling that far, especially since I don’t golf. I think I would just make a fool of myself! Not to mention I have NO energy and can’t stand up for too long without feeling faint. But I didn’t tell him that part.

I have been feeling pretty crummy in the last few days (more so than usual). But as long as I’m feeling queasy, I know the baby is doing okay! Because if something was wrong, my hormone levels would drop and then I would start feeling better. So, as long as I feel queasy, I’m happy! Which is a very strange thing to say!

Exactly 3 weeks now until I reach the second trimester (which officially starts at 13 weeks, 3 days). I actually reach that milestone on my dad’s birthday (July 31st), which is neat. More reason to celebrate! We’ll use that as our official “start telling people” date. Unless we hear the heartbeat at the appointment on the 25th, in which case we could start telling people then.

CT has a friend who just got engaged a few weeks ago and he asked CT for his address because he’s getting married September 13th! That’s quick! Two months isn’t a lot of time to pull together a wedding, but I guess it can be done. Good thing we’re free that weekend because we don’t have a lot of free weekends in the next few months!

I’m glad it’s already Thursday. I have been pretty tired this week, so I am looking forward to the weekend. This weekend, I am going to the cottage with my family. CT is not coming this time since he has a baseball tournament on Saturday. Looks like the weather should be decent, so I envision lots of time outside and swimming in the lake ;)

EDIT 10:31pm

One of my co-workers is going to go to the golf tournament tomorrow, so I am officially off the hook. Thank goodness! I am quite relieved since I don't think I would have been able to handle it given the way I have been feeling this week. What a relief!

Tuesday, July 08, 2008

Update on Oma

Oma had her appointment with the gerontologist yesterday. My mom went with her (they asked her to bring a family member). Mom had a 10-page questionnaire to fill out! They talked to mom and Oma for a long time and apparently Oma had the attitude that it was stupid to be there, that there is nothing wrong with her memory. She got quite upset with mom about some of the things she was saying (i.e. some of the incidents that have happened recently with Oma forgetting stuff, asking the same questions over and over again, etc.). So, the nurse sent Oma for bloodwork and then talked to mom alone. She showed mom some of Oma’s memory test (the one Oma thought she passed for sure). There was one part when Oma was asked to say all the words that start with “f” that she could think of in 1 minute. The average for an elderly person would be 12-15. Oma could think of 2. With the letter “s”, Oma could only think of 3. So, there is definitely something happening there.

I guess the nurse totally sees what is going on and says this is classic, right down to Oma’s attitude of denial and offence when we say anything. They go back for a follow-up appointment in a few weeks.

Oma’s driver’s license has expired now and the ministry won’t issue a new one until she goes for the testing, which is on the 17th. We’re all hoping she fails. Even if she manages to pass, mom took her keys away a week ago and won’t give them back. I’m sure the doctor won’t let her drive anyway. We’re all hoping that the doctor is in the one to not let her drive so we don’t have to be the “bad guys”. But we will if we have to. So, that’s the latest on that.

Also, as of today, CT and I have been married for 10 months – how time flies!

Monday, July 07, 2008

Sleepy return to work

It was difficult to get up at 5:45am this morning when my body was used to sleeping in until 9am! But, I managed to get to work and am feeling okay right now. I’m sure I’ll hit a brick wall around 2pm, and I will really miss the afternoon nap that I’ve been enjoying all week. Hopefully it won’t be too much longer until I get my energy back. Only another 3.5 weeks and then I’ll officially be in the second trimester. It’s going to be a long month, I think! I am already looking forward to my next week off which isn’t until the end of August.

The rest of my week off went well. Friday and Saturday, I didn’t do much of anything. Just some stuff around the house. Yesterday, we did some errands and then went to my parents house in the afternoon for a swim and BBQ. Nice way to end our vacation.

Now it’s back to work. My boss is on holidays this week, so it will be nice to have a quiet week here at the office. And Friday, we have WHMIS training in the morning and a BBQ at lunch, so Friday is pretty much a write-off.

I am really glad I got some maternity clothes last week. My clothes are getting tighter by the day. The pants I’m wearing today were loose a couple of weeks ago and now they are tight. I have a feeling it will only be another week or so before I have to start wearing my new maternity clothes. I’m really glad I have them for when none of my regular clothes fit! I’ve now gained a total of 5 pounds. Which isn’t too bad. My midwife said that in general, you can expect about a 40 pound weight gain, but it varies from person to person. I figure that since I’m not a small woman to begin with, I may be a little less than that. We’ll see. She also said that they don’t put too much emphasis on weight gain, that it’s more about how the baby is doing. Which is nice.

I definitely notice that my belly is getting bigger, but I think I am hiding it well so far. I think it won’t be long before I have to spill the beans at work. I figure I will tell them by the end of the month for sure. I am really hoping that we can hear the baby’s heartbeat at our next appointment, which is on July 25. I will be at almost 13 weeks by then, so it is a possibility, but not definite. The midwife said that sometimes you can hear it as early as 12 weeks, but definitely by 15 weeks. I am certainly hoping! I will try not to worry if we can’t hear it though as I know there is only a chance that it can be heard that early.

Thursday, July 03, 2008

Niki's comments made me laugh

I just got back from our mega shopping day. It did involve going to Reitmans, which is a store I could previously always find great clothes that fit. So, I thought I'd have no problem. Well, after trying on pants after pants and capris after capris, NONE of them fit me. Very depressing. I usually fund tonnes of things that fit. I guess my body is changing lots!

So, I went out in the parking lot and cried. I was just feeling so depressed that I couldn't fit into the clothes in "regular" clothing stores anymore. And if I were to stop in the plus sizes, they would be bigger all over and would look funny because I am not a plus size. It's only my belly that's getting bigger. The rest of me has pretty much stayed the same so far.

So, after calming myself down, we decided to go to Pickering to check out the maternity store there. I had already checked beforehand and knew there was one there. So, we went there and found TONNES of things that fit. I ended up getting 5 pairs of pants and 3 shirts. And all of the pants you wouldn't even know they were maternity unless you pulled your shirt up and saw the "panel". Actually, only 3 of the 5 have the panel, the other 2 have some elastic in the waist. And 3 of the pairs of pants actually roll up into capris, so I'm set for the summer now for bottoms. I may need some more shirts, but I think I can shop in Walmart for those and just ones that are a little roomy ;)

So Niki, great minds think alike! Because Motherhood Maternity is exactly where we went and it was very successful! At first I felt a little strange shopping there at only 2 months along, but the saleslady said that's when a lot of women need to start buying stuff because you're sort of in that "transition" stage where your regular clothes don't fit anymore. And there was another girl there in the next dressing room who didn't look any more pregnant than me, so it was good to know I'm not alone.

So, I feel much better now. I am armed with some clothes to wear for the next several months!

We also went to Babies R Us again because mom hadn't been there yet and we have our crib bedding and stroller/car seat combo pretty much picked out. Of course, I don't want to make any big purchases until I'm in my second trimester, but we've already started to pick things out. And as soon as we told the family we're expecting, Oma said she'd buy the stroller/car seat, so that's awesome!

We also went to Costco and Ikea, so needless to say I'm ready for bed!

Cottage was great

We had a very relaxing time at the cottage. It only rained on Sunday, so not bad at all! Tuesday and yesterday were absolutely gorgeous. It was a wonderful little getaway.

Today, we are off to do some shopping with my mom. We'll likely go to the major places like Ikea and Costco and I want to show mom Babies R Us too. Should be a fun day! I need to get some new clothes for the summer since I now only have 1 pair of capris that fit. I had another pair that fit 2 weeks ago, but when I went to put them on at the cottage, they don't fit.

I am having a hard time dealing with the fact that my body is changing. Right now I just feel fat, I don't feel pregnant. I spend the last 7 or 8 years of my life trying to either lose weight or maintain, so this is a little scary. I know it will all be worth it, it is just taking some getting used to. I have only gained about 3 pounds so far, but I am definitely noticing my waistline is changing... hence, the need for some new clothes! I don't think I'm ready for maternity clothes yet, but I do need some clothes for the summer, preferably with a waist that has room for growth. So, that's part of our mission for today.